Comments for Her War, Her Voice! http://herwarhervoice.com/blog Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:04:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on Deployment Discussion by Melissa http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=7&cpage=1#comment-3396 Melissa Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:04:09 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=7#comment-3396 Christie--I hear you. And you are feeling this way because you are on a ride and we all go through this cycle. And you are feeling this way because you love him. It isn't a fun process. But we are all going through it with you. Beside you. Christie–I hear you. And you are feeling this way because you are on a ride and we all go through this cycle. And you are feeling this way because you love him. It isn’t a fun process. But we are all going through it with you. Beside you.

]]> Comment on Deployment Discussion by Christie http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=7&cpage=1#comment-3395 Christie Wed, 01 Sep 2010 19:38:21 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=7#comment-3395 I'm right there...where that second wave of sadness feels like it's gonna overwhelm the tenuous hold I thought I'd gained after the first few months of his deployment. And his R & R is a month away. It makes me feel so guilty and confused. Like I can't answer the question, "why am I feeling this way?" I’m right there…where that second wave of sadness feels like it’s gonna overwhelm the tenuous hold I thought I’d gained after the first few months of his deployment. And his R & R is a month away. It makes me feel so guilty and confused. Like I can’t answer the question, “why am I feeling this way?”

]]> Comment on Ready to Listen and Learn by christina http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1103&cpage=1#comment-3383 christina Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:49:57 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1103#comment-3383 Starr, I was in the Army in the early 90's right after Desert Storm, only girl in my platoon. The wives were still nervous then, but it is getting better. Thank you for your kind words. ~Chris Starr,

I was in the Army in the early 90’s right after Desert Storm, only girl in my platoon. The wives were still nervous then, but it is getting better.

Thank you for your kind words.

~Chris

]]> Comment on Ready to Listen and Learn by Starr Gotzen http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1103&cpage=1#comment-3379 Starr Gotzen Wed, 01 Sep 2010 01:16:05 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1103#comment-3379 Ladies, I am a female Veteran of the Vietnam Era. I did not go to Vietnam. Females in the Military were treated poorly by the wives of their co-workers because the Military was changing and allowing more women to enlist (5% were female during my years in the USAF!), which, apparently made the wives nervous. I hope things have changed now in that respect. I knew many women who sent their men over there, though. I worked in the Base Chapel as an Administration Specialist, so we saw many of those 'left behind'. The strength of character to get you through this is found in your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish. This will also help your children to develop into good people who are willing to take responsibility for themselves when they grow up. Support groups are another great way to help each other, ladies, so Good Luck to you, your partners, and your families. Best Wishes Starr Hollis Gotzen Ladies, I am a female Veteran of the Vietnam Era. I did not go to Vietnam. Females in the Military were treated poorly by the wives of their co-workers because the Military was changing and allowing more women to enlist (5% were female during my years in the USAF!), which, apparently made the wives nervous. I hope things have changed now in that respect.
I knew many women who sent their men over there, though. I worked in the Base Chapel as an Administration Specialist, so we saw many of those ‘left behind’. The strength of character to get you through this is found in your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish. This will also help your children to develop into good people who are willing to take responsibility for themselves when they grow up.
Support groups are another great way to help each other, ladies, so Good Luck to you, your partners, and your families.
Best Wishes
Starr Hollis Gotzen

]]> Comment on Baptism By Fire by Javier Lopez http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1084&cpage=1#comment-3282 Javier Lopez Sun, 29 Aug 2010 03:41:25 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1084#comment-3282 Yes my baby sister is a ROCK! She has survived so many challenges in her life and family life. We are proud of her Hubby and her for standing behind him every step of the way. The one strong aspect of my sister is her humor. She can make a bad situation into a humorous outcome. God bless sister. WE love you. Brudder Yes my baby sister is a ROCK! She has survived so many challenges in her life and family life. We are proud of her Hubby and her for standing behind him every step of the way. The one strong aspect of my sister is her humor. She can make a bad situation into a humorous outcome.
God bless sister. WE love you.

Brudder

]]> Comment on About Us by Melissa http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=111&cpage=1#comment-3240 Melissa Fri, 27 Aug 2010 23:11:38 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=111#comment-3240 Thank you so much, Barb. I know exactly what you mean about breathing better. It seems I let out a deep sigh every time I have a chance to hug him again. Thanks for your support. Thank you so much, Barb. I know exactly what you mean about breathing better. It seems I let out a deep sigh every time I have a chance to hug him again. Thanks for your support.

]]> Comment on About Us by Barb http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=111&cpage=1#comment-3238 Barb Fri, 27 Aug 2010 22:35:13 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?page_id=111#comment-3238 Great website Melissa and Chris. And such a wonderful voice you both have about your particular personal "war". I can empathize as every time my son goes to 'work' at MSC, I know he his working as a support to the military and ...well I'll just say I breathe better when he comes home. My best wishes for you both and your families. May your individual strengths keep you focused on enjoying all you have that is wonderful. Barb Great website Melissa and Chris. And such a wonderful voice you both have about your particular personal “war”. I can empathize as every time my son goes to ‘work’ at MSC, I know he his working as a support to the military and …well I’ll just say I breathe better when he comes home. My best wishes for you both and your families. May your individual strengths keep you focused on enjoying all you have that is wonderful.
Barb

]]> Comment on Vice Grips by christina http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098&cpage=1#comment-3179 christina Wed, 25 Aug 2010 15:22:09 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098#comment-3179 We live for the moments we have. In spite of all the fear, agony, and bitterness we hold on to hope that we (as a couple) will survive. That we will see a glimpse of who we once were. But sometimes we become better than we once were. Sometimes we appreciate each other more, and sometimes we can start again. But the really suck part of this is that you can learn that after the first deployment. I am am with you guys. Gwen, I am feeling what you are feeling and hearing from more and more of my friends that they are just done with everything Army. We are all exhausted and bitter. This phase really is intense on the suck. Michelle, the guilt is normal. I feel it, my husband feels it, and I am sure that all the buddies of the fallen feel it. Keep planning, and we will be planning right beside you. We live for the moments we have. In spite of all the fear, agony, and bitterness we hold on to hope that we (as a couple) will survive. That we will see a glimpse of who we once were. But sometimes we become better than we once were. Sometimes we appreciate each other more, and sometimes we can start again. But the really suck part of this is that you can learn that after the first deployment.

I am am with you guys.

Gwen, I am feeling what you are feeling and hearing from more and more of my friends that they are just done with everything Army. We are all exhausted and bitter. This phase really is intense on the suck.

Michelle, the guilt is normal. I feel it, my husband feels it, and I am sure that all the buddies of the fallen feel it. Keep planning, and we will be planning right beside you.

]]> Comment on Vice Grips by Gwen http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098&cpage=1#comment-3178 Gwen Wed, 25 Aug 2010 13:53:48 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098#comment-3178 With Deployment #7 looming near us, I have found myself asking the same question, "How many times can someone go over there and come home?" I hate HATE the Army right now. I hate the FRG and everything else associated with the unit. I never go on post, I have very few Army wives as friends. I'm bitter and going through a phase, I'm sure I'll get through it. You've given me hope and right now that is what I need, just to feel normal. Thanks. With Deployment #7 looming near us, I have found myself asking the same question, “How many times can someone go over there and come home?” I hate HATE the Army right now. I hate the FRG and everything else associated with the unit. I never go on post, I have very few Army wives as friends. I’m bitter and going through a phase, I’m sure I’ll get through it. You’ve given me hope and right now that is what I need, just to feel normal. Thanks.

]]> Comment on Vice Grips by Michelle http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098&cpage=1#comment-3176 Michelle Wed, 25 Aug 2010 12:55:44 +0000 http://herwarhervoice.com/blog/?p=1098#comment-3176 It's such a huge relief when you hear someone else say what you are thinking. I often wonder how many times he can go over before something happens to him. Then when he does return home I feel bad and almost guilty that mine did come home. We just found out deployment #4 will be sometime after the holidays. I am already planning out my Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Years menus and celebrations just in case this is our last together. I feel like I'm always in morning, preparing myself for the worst. It’s such a huge relief when you hear someone else say what you are thinking. I often wonder how many times he can go over before something happens to him. Then when he does return home I feel bad and almost guilty that mine did come home. We just found out deployment #4 will be sometime after the holidays. I am already planning out my Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Years menus and celebrations just in case this is our last together. I feel like I’m always in morning, preparing myself for the worst.

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